Hello Ladies !!! It's time for some Change😊
Women must not accept anymore; she must challenge and that's how we can
change the society. We always think when 100% people do something then
the change happens but history said if only 3.5% population want for a
change then the change happens ! Then why SILENCE ! Be Vocal !
Though we all have started saying "Men and Women are equal" but that's still unjust in many situations we face in our daily lives. We don't need ladies seat in bus or a separate ladies compartment in trains ! We don't fall in handicapped zones that we will be treated with some "extra privileges" which we have not demanded from society, what we expect is Respect from all corners.
"O Girl; c'mon you have completed your studies ; now you are also working ! Time To Marry !" - Common lines we hear as we step in late 20s and if you are in 30s and unmarried it's pretty sure there is something wrong in you ! Either in your character or something ...
Truth is Marriage is a part of life and not the heart of life. When it comes to boys their salary matters; their career matters but why not for a girl then? Why still in our jobs male feels inferior to work under female bosses ? Where comes the ego? Why every time a girl is treated like a trophy and gosh! if she turned out to be a good looking one then surely she is treated like an asset or commodity but never as an individual who seeks equal respect. She has to prove and prove to the society at every bit steps!
Little we are aware of POSH - "Prevention of Sexual Harassment" ; a committee that every MNC has and we should always know to reach correct people.
- Don't LISTEN if "They" say you not to reach HR.
- Always speak in the right forum with correct data and facts.
- Never feel afraid to speak truth.
- Never tolerate bullying in any forms.
- A woman can sexually abuse another woman publicly and little we are aware that the victim can still ask for Justice.
- Never tolerate any means of Unprofessional-ism in any form in office premises.
JUDGE -->> When we STOP JUDGING Ladies ?? Why we still judge a girl wearing a Red Lipstick or Bold dresses as a source of entertainment?? Why her over makeup forced the society to think she is a commodity?? Why can't a girl wear the clothes she likes but has to wear the ones society defined for her? Why still Indian girls are facing the same issues even in 2020s?
Is there any answers? I believe NO !! A BIG NO !
Society --> "No We Do Respect girls; see they now go to schools and colleges and in many cases they are having jobs earning big fat money" .
Me --> But does all these make both men and women equal? Still in any restaurants it's men who pays and not a dutch where in European nations even husband and wife dutches in dinner or lunch. Still a husband can never spend a month at home while wife earning ! Still a lady has to quit her job and take care of her family while men earning ! Why can't it be the opposite? Or lets say why can't we all share our household works and take equal responsibilities in life considering both career are equally important ; thinking in school or college both gave equal efforts in studying. Still a mother is more concerned about their daughter's marriage more than her son. Still dowry system runs in our society! Alas but true!
Yes life is unjust especially when we see at every step of life
starting from school to college to marriage to motherhood to old age We are being Judged! And worst when women don't even respect each other!
It comes like a torture to ears when we see some intellect ladies wearing some junk jewelries; in black framed glasses; maybe a Saree with a sleeveless blouse or a cotton Kurti in some clubs or coffee shop criticizing girls being responsible for being raped due to their flamboyant nature or dresses or flirting nature ! And these section of ladies consider themselves to be a part of the Intellect society who are leading a flamboyant life using some MAC lipstick or Gucci bags with their husband's money ! It's sad but true that researches have said that in most cases a lady condemns another lady ; God knows why ! is it inferiority or superiority complex I don't know but it's time for some change !
"What could happen if women of faith built each other up? We are more powerful together than divided."
What's wrong society?? Why can only Men flirt ? And if a girl is little flirtatious; she is exposed to be raped and some Ministers and intellect society blaming the girl still today? Who said " A prostitute can be raped? " Who has given this audacity to the society to decide how a girl needs to be tortured? Men maybe more likely to victim-blame women who are sexually harassed because they have more empathy with the perpetrators.
Still in many places; forget villages or small towns ; even in cities a family wants a baby boy and kills or aborts if there is a baby girl in the womb? I know a mother who has not seen her newly born daughter for some 24 hrs as she was expecting a boy and not a girl ! Hell with this society and their thought processes. It does not matter what convent educated you are or how much English you can speak ; that does never define your status ! CLEAR THE DIRT FROM MIND First !
There are so many girls who have a dark childhood. Maybe she has become victim of some child abuse from close relative and family knowing all these keep their mouth shut even today in 2020s claiming that would ruin the relationship ! May I know what kind of relationship you are talking about where your family has not treated your daughter with respect ! I feel pity for those men and women out there who claims themselves as good parents or guardians but actually failed to protect or guard their own child. STOP THINKING ABOUT SOCIETY ! It's ENOUGH Now. Society is not going to take care of you when u will be sick; nor those shady relatives will be there who doesn't have any morality in themselves ! Time To SAY NO!
There are many movies like Mardaani and PINK and so many and we loved watching those but why can't we learn something from them ! Why still society does not understand " A NO MEANS A NO ".
It's time we focus on raising a boy more carefully teaching him to respect women from day 1; He does not have to know that Draupadi Bastraharan as a masterpiece from epic Mahabharat ! They should know that the "Battle of Kurukshetra" happened only because Draupadi was demeaned by men! And all those men who were a part of the scene ended up giving their lives in the battle. Even Bhisya- the most righteous upright man who got the blessing of immorality died because he was quiet when Drapadi was being abused by Duryadhan and his brothers.
Our epics never taught us to disrespect women ; it's just we don't know the whole story ! Even In Ramayana , Ram did test his wife Sita in AGNI (Fire) and we believed Sita is the ideal definition of a wife who obeyed her husband's instructions. But little we know that yes she did that but then the Earth crashed and Sita disappeared with her father leaving her husband forever. So that's the ending ! The ending will never be happy if we disrespect women and ask them to prove themselves again, again and again !
"Despite movements such as #MeToo, women still fear negative consequences of making a sexual harassment complaint," ; in many cases still police restrained to take FIRs.
It's Time we start BELIEVING In Women. We don't need your Empathy ! We don't need your concerned eyes on us ! We don't need extra privileges. We just want "TO BE SAFE" in our hometowns.
- We want to come home from parties late night with no fear of being molested.
- We want our government bodies to teach first their officials and next the society to Keep us Safe.
- We should not be scared walking or crossing roads at late night when we come home from office.
It gives peace to our inner self; to our subconscious mind when we understand or feel that our parents, our relatives, our neighbors - the society are proud to have us; accept us; not considered as a child producing machine or a puppet or a trophy termed as "Wifey" ; all we want us to be respected as an individual for own accomplishments!
"I want every girl to know that each one of your voice can change the world ".
Dated back in 2014, I took part in a women empowerment song ; Shaktiroopena beautifully sung by Lopamudra.
Since a child I have always voiced against wrong; I did not stop myself from slapping a police officer on face for being little indecent towards me. Time I have realized maybe a small write up will not change the world but hope it brings a little self awareness among girls.
- We can flirt if we want ! It does not give every other man to flirt with us. It's our choice to choose whom we want. No means a No!
- Even after marriage we are not anyone's personal property or commodity.
- No tolerance of domestic violence.
- My red lipstick and shorts with bared legs or that little cleavage seen from my top or the braa strap you can see does not give you impression that I am an "available option".
- I am partying till 6 AM does not mean I am sleeping around !
Most importantly don't be ashamed of your story it will inspire others!
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim.
" I am not what happened to me; I am what I chose to become. Little we realize that some of us are becoming the men we want to marry " - Leena
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